Thursday, May 27, 2010

Do's and Dont's of Thank You Notes

We had an absolutely packed house last night (we had to borrow bar stools from next door!) for our Wedding Planning 101 etiquette session and we LOVED it. Molly Kellogg is such a great speaker and had the whole place in stitches we were laughing so much. I learned A LOT of things that I didn't know I didn't know. I promise to step my manners up a notch moving forward :)



I just feel so blessed to be able to work with such amazing brides and their families every day. I seriously had so much fun with all you ladies last night and can't wait for the next session.

In case you missed out on the fun, here are 10 Do's and Don'ts of thank you notes from Emily Post's The Definitive Guide to Your Wedding Experience.

1. Do personalize your notes and make reference to the person as well as the gift.

2. Do remember that a gift should be acknowledged with the same courtesy and generous spirit in which it was given.

3. Do be enthusiastic, but don't gush. Avoid saying a gift is the most beautiful thing you have ever seen unless you really mean it.

4. Don't send form letters or cards with printed messages and just your signature; don't use email or post a generic thank you on your wedding website in lieu of a personal note.

5. Do promptly acknowledge the receipt of shipped gifts by sending a note right away or calling and following up with a written note in a day or two.

6. Don't mention that you plan to return a girt or that you are dissatisfied in any way.

7. Don't tailor your note to the perceived value of the gift. No one should receive a perfunctory note.

8. Do refer to the way you will use a gift of money. Mentioning the amount is optional.

9. Don't include wedding photos or use photo cards if it will delay sending the note.

10. Don't use being late as an excuse not to write. Even if you are still sending notes after your first anniversary, keep writing!